5 Top Tips to Avoiding Conflict This Christmas
Jessica Boston spoke to Sheerluxe and gave her Tips To Avoid Arguing With Loved Ones This Christmas. It’s been quite a year, but it looks like we’re going to be allowed to spend time with loved ones over Christmas. But that doesn’t mean it’s all going to be plain sailing – in fact, after so long apart and so many opinions on everything from the pandemic to Brexit, it may not take much time for tempers to fray. Here are suggestions to help you avoid arguing with friends and family this Christmas…
Take care of your basic human needs first. Arguments can happen when we are sleep deprived, dehydrated or just stressed. Make sure if you are staying away from your own home for a few days, you are taking care of yourself, and you know who you can ask to get what you need when you feel like your own needs aren’t being met.
Give everyone space. Recognise that as well as your needs, everyone else around you has their own, too. Think about how they recharge their batteries and make sure you factor in some downtime away from each other to prevent unnecessary tensions from building.
Let things go. Many of us already feel a lot of extra pressure at this time of year – financially and emotionally – but with Covid and social distancing, there will be more. That doesn’t mean you have to let your family get away with cruel or unreasonable behaviour or comments, but do your best to let the smaller things go when you can.
Communicate. If you are returning to a family home, you can be easily be emotionally highjacked and regress back to the behaviour of a younger you and the emotional resilience or lack thereof, which you might have had at that time when you lived in the home. If this happens, do your best to communicate with “I” statements to show how you feel with the people around you. Just make sure you do this with people you feel safe around.
Help where you can. Stress is contagious, and more often than not, one person’s fears get passed on to others. Offer to chip in and see how you can make things easier and run smoother. It will also feel good and get you in the Christmas-giving spirit.
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